by c.b.m
Self love,the golden ingredient!
Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.
— Oscar Wilde.
Let’s talk about the most important person on earth,……you. What do you think about yourself as a person.Do you love yourself enough?Do you treasure your life enough?Are you comfortable with the way you are?
Well sweetie,you should strive to answer yes to those few questions I’ve asked.If your answer’s no though,don’t worry,you’re not abnormal or from a mysterious planet,no!Sometimes we all feel that way,we feel small,we feel unworthy and unloved,we feel like dirt in a golden world .Well it happens,but we should strive to block that and fight such feelings,right?
What if I told you there’s a way to escape from that dark and dull side of life.I mean it’s too boring and draining.Well ,you know what,there is!Grab my hand and find out how to live on the lighter side of life with satisfaction.How to have no regrets and gain full confidence. Woosh…..Let’s go!
I will give you one simple and practical way to love your life and live fully.
Okay,let’s dig in without wasting time. Drumroll……….
And here we have it,the main ingredient ,the golden spice that will give you wings and will turn you into pixie dust (not literally lol).
1: Realizing you are unique,accepting all your positives and flaws and not looking at yourself through other people’s eyes
Have you ever looked at a person and just felt great admiration for them.Did you find them pretty or handsome.Did they seem so sophisticated?Did they just seem out of this world?Well I have,and I decided to do the same with myself .Since we spend 365 and a quarter days with this being called the “self”,we forget how unique we are and how precious we are. Hmn ,I mean we’ve seen it all, right?What’s new and exciting about ourselves?Nothing right?WRONG!!!!We are more than special,more than beautiful,more than handsome,more than worthy and guess what?We spend every second with us!Wow, we spend every second of the decade with VIPs.That’s us.How lucky we are!
May you redirect some of your adoration for other people towards yourself.You know what,your body and soul deserves love.It’s a right and if you ever deprive yourself of this right,then you are being cruel towards yourself.This self love I’m talking about begins with acknowledging that you are unique.The world would be a totally boring place without you.The earth is full of gazillions of people and each one of them with their different way of spicing it up.You are one of them and are unique,I don’t know if you are a gummybear-orange-chip spice,or honey-sugarplum-barbecue sauce,but even if it may seem weird in other’s eyes,embrace yourself that way.It’s your flavour and the earth would be one flavour down if it weren’t for you.
Imagine if we only ate one type of food on earth,your favourite food,all day,everyday,all year.Would you still like it?Personally I wouldn’t.Why?Because there is need for diversity!Let’s take a step further.Imagine if the world population constituted of one type of person,with the same face,the same traits,the same body,the same
height,the same ……. EVERYTHIIIIING!!!It would be the most boring place in the galaxy,I wouldn’t want to live in it.Why?Because diversity is what brings colour and life.I add my green,you add your pink,another adds their yellow,and we have life.So you see,your difference from the person next to you is a necessity on earth,it’s essential for the universe to properly run.Realise you are different and embrace that.Never compare yourself to the person next to you because you can never and should never be them.Your purpose on earth is to be YOU.
Disappointment in life comes when we look at ourselves through other’s eyes,when we tag our price based on outsiders’ opinions.We shouldn’t do that,no.Even if one receives love from the whole galaxy,without self love,life will still remain meaningless and dull.Self acceptance and self love is the first step if we are to enjoy life.If a daisy were to look at itself through the eyes of a caterpillar,it would always think it’s ugly since caterpillars eat and destroy daisies,not noticing their beauty.But would you find a daisy to be ugly?Maybe,but I wouldn’t. Lesson learnt?Beauty values and worthiness differ per person.If you try to get everyone’s acknowledgement,you will fail and will be disappointed.Solution?Accept yourself as you are.Simple!Do you wonder why you can’t fit into other people’s space?Because you haven’t realized that your world is best and are trying to live in the one someone else built for themselves.What’s the problem with that?It’s like trying to fit a square into a triangular box of the same size.It won’t work because both shapes are different and unique and should just stay the way they are.If you accept your world and have a strong foundation,then and only then can you feel free to confidently mix with others and build each other.
Do yourself a favour,stand in front of a mirror every morning,look yourself in the eyes,appreciate what you see,and tell yourself, “I LOVE YOU”.Take note of all your positive attributes and give yourself a high five.Appreciate yourself and think of how lucky the earth is to have you as a part of it.You know when they talk the “human race” ,you’re included on that list.Understand that if one part that’s on you were to be changed,then you wouldn’t be you.I do this everyday and it works wonders.Not too long ago,I was a shy person who believed everything people said about me.I was the person THEY moulded.If they told me I was unintelligent,I believed that.If they said I was not worth it,I believed it.If they said I was too slim,I felt that.If they said I just looked terrible,then terrible I was.I had no happiness and confidence at all because I tried to live out their view of perfect and never considered mine but one day I decided to put an end to it and just embrace ME.From then on my life has been the best!I walk with my head held high and never colour myself with other people’s paint.I believe I am enough and tell myself so every chance I get.You should try it out and should also try some mental makeovers on Pinterest,they’ve helped me a lot.Start the journey to self acceptance now!You will love it,I promise.The destination is beautiful.
Okay,that’s it for now.Hope you learnt something.Do try and apply this in your life and see the great difference.Remember there never was someone like you in the past,there is no one like you in the present and there will never be one in the future too.Love yourself like that!
I can’t wait to share more with you.
Affirmations:I deserve to be loved by me.I am unique.There is no one else like me from head to toe.I am a limited edition.I love me like that!
Till next time,bye .Remember to shine and give yourself some love.You’re special darling.
Love
Chipo.
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